Why Won’t You Stop Talking About Your Past?
Questions like this one, and others like, “Move on already … no one wants to talk about abuse. It’s over, grow up – it’s done with,” are often responses from others who find out I’ve written an entire novel about my history with sexual abuse, my having bi-polar disorder, being a teen mom, and other issues that I have the audacity to bring into the light.
As my “real” job, aside from being an author, I am the Editor in Chief for Disability Loop News, a national media platform for the advocacy, information, support and unity of the disability community. One of my jobs is to write book reviews.
Today, in the mail, Harilyn Rousso’s book, Don’t Call Me Inspirational, came in the mail. Bless her heart, she even signed the book for me. Now, at first I looked at the cover title and saw the sub-title which reads, “A Disabled Feminist Talks Back,” and I thought … whoa … this is going to be a wild ride. However, as I nestled in with my coffee and my morkie in my lap, I was absolutely floored by the words in her first chapter. It was as if she were saying them right to me. It was as if she was telling me, “KEEP GOING – there is a REASON!”
For anyone who shares their story in the purpose of greater connection to self and to others, for those who reach out with their stories of survival and recovery, KEEP DOING IT. Don’t let the nay-sayer’s who are “uncomfortable” with the topic bring you down. Perhaps, just perhaps, they aren’t ready to heal quite yet. I bet, however, your courage makes a difference and that you are a light – even when it doesn’t seem like it, in their dark places. This is what she writes in Chapter One ….
“So that’s my story, my journey in a nutshell. Having come to a place where I not only accept but at times appreciate and celebrate my disability status, I’d like to offer support and a bit of advice to young people who may be struggling with the fact that they have a disability and who may be hoping beyond hope that it will go away or that no one will notice. I’d like them to consider the possibility that they can stop hiding and pretending, that they can claim disability and be all right. There’s no magic pill to get them to that all-right place – if there were, I’d gladly give it to them (and take one myself). But there is a path, their path, to get there. Maybe my journey will help them. Even if nothing I did makes any sense to them and they have to forge their own direction, I want them to take heart. They should trust themselves to find their way – and call on some of their older sisters and brothers with disabilities to help them. Most important, they should know that there are some great moments of self-discovery and freedom ahead of them.
Daring to claim disability or any part of yourself that you have been taught to disavow can be an amazing adventure …”
I LOVE what she points out ….. ” … that you have BEEN TAUGHT TO DISAVOW …”
To breaking free from the mis-guided teachings of shame and secrecy and to a bright and purposeful future of empowering ourselves and others through the life journey of overcoming odds against us.
Write on fellow authors and reachers …. write on, and reach on. You DO make a difference. Now, excuse me, but I’ve got to get to Chapter Two …. she starts the Chapter with, “I was in a hurry to be born.” Wow. This feminist can WRITE! 🙂
To see the full review on June 3rd visit http://www.disabilityloopnews.com!