Over ten years ago I began working for adoption.com as a moderator, and within a few years I became a published author with my first book, “One Birthmothers Emotional Truth on Healing, Recovery, and Success.” I spoke across the country and assisted with many support groups especially for birthmother‘s who entered into open and semi-open adoption that ended up, sadly, closed. I wrote over 60 articles during that time which were published across a media platform of 6 websites. I hosted retreats that were adoption based out of Colorado Springs, Colorado and I flew all over meeting amazing men and women both, in adoption.
However, after a few years, when my adoption being closed began to take an emotional toll on me, I stopped writing. I closed down my desktop computer and I went to work, raised my babies, and attempted to tuck that part of my writing life aside. I never stopped writing to my birth son or calling the agency every year, but my involvement in the adoption community simply became too difficult for me. I’d been told I would receive letters and updates for the first five years of my son’s life and then, at that time, be able to have an open communication through the adoption agency with his parents with the ultimate outcome being preparing for a healthy reunion. Unfortunately, this didn’t happen.
I have reunited with my son via facebook, and our online social media relationship has been ultimately healing for me. He is happy, he is loved, and the parents I’d dreamed of him having … he got all along. My decision was validated that I had done the best thing for him and he told me thank you, thank you for giving me life. He’s having a fabulous life. While he does not want to meet me at this time or speak on the phone, I am at peace. He is okay.
These years of being in touch with him empowered me to write again. I wrote another book, and began this blog, and as I work hard on networking and setting up all of the connections one does with blogs, I went back to adoption.com and re-registered. Maybe, after all this time, I could offer something of value.
In registering for my profile it allows you to post a you tube video if you have one, and so I went to you tube to find the URL link to my own intro video for my blog. Being an internet/blogging newbie, I didn’t know how to find myself! I typed my name in, and was literally in total and complete shock with what I discovered.
Words I’d written, in painful vulnerability, over ten years ago, were being used to promote a nonprofit with a cause that is beautiful. They’d given me full copyright inclusion, and I watched and read the description of the video, where my words are copied, with tears in my eyes. I had never known that my words had meant anything to anyone aside from my own healing so long ago.
I’ve contacted the group to let them know, and volunteered to do a donation by giving proceeds from my last three remaining copies of my book to their group, Birthmom Mission. Perhaps once again, after over ten years, I might lend my own vulnerability to someone who may need to hear … we are never alone. Our Reaching Out is Never in Vain! *See my other blog post on this one!
Have you been blessed by a response from someone, years after you didn’t even know you’d made an impact? I’d love to hear your story!